A woman shared how her husband sometimes hits her when he is angry and he even used his laptop to slam on her neck, after slapping her.
Here is the story:
Help, should I stay with my partner who sometimes hits me when he is angry?
We have been together for 8 years and married for 3 years. when we quarrel he says he can’t get through to me, that I provoked him and can’t control himself.
This has happened over the course of our rs less than 5 times, but recently what he did really broke me emotionally.
He slapped me hard several times on both sides of my face and used his laptop to slam on my neck repeatedly. I had bruises on my neck and head, but somehow my heart hurt more. after he said he shouldn’t apologize bcos he wasn’t in the wrong.
I love him still. I used to be a very positive person, but after this incident, I can’t seem to get over it.
Is there anything I can do and is our marriage and rs even salvageable? he has since apologized but my heart just can’t seem to heal from this.
Netizens comments
- R.U.N.The one whom loves you will not lay a finger on you. Think of your family especially your parents whom raised you to be a fine lady. Will u lay a finger on him even when you are stressed or angry? If the answer is no, why should he?
- No such thing as cannot control. Will he hit a much bigger and stronger person than himself if he is angry?Please leave before your parents cry at your funeral.
- Get out of there immediately. It’s unlikely you are safe. The number for the National Anti-Violence Helpline is 1800 777 0000
It’s 24 hours. Get in contact with them.
There are a few red flags:
1) he slapped you
2) he went after your throat with his laptop
3) he sees nothing wrong with doing so
What is the intention in striking your neck? That’s one of the parts that’s very vulnerable. Did he want to choke you? Cause you permanent damage to your breathing or voice? Hurt your spine?
The fact that he doesn’t see anything wrong with what he did is a huge red flag. He doesn’t see anything wrong in causing you physical hurt. That’s not how a healthy relationship should be. This would be physical abuse.
Go see a doctor about it to document it, and possibly get further help.
You’re not in a good position.
If you still feel you love him and want to make excuses, ask yourself this. If your best friend showed up with bruises like that because of what their spouse did, would you accept it? If the answer is no, you know what to do. If the answer is yes, please still seek help because it’s not acceptable.
Good luck and stay safe.
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