My husband (34M) was scammed online for 11K and now I (29F) am thinking we need to divorce to protect my own financial security
We have had an open relationship due to incompatibility. We have been married almost 7 years. My husband (34M) has never really seen anyone outside the relationship, but started using a dating app a month ago and met a woman on it who scammed him out of $11K in an internet cryptocurrency scheme.
I (29F) have been considering divorce for some time, but after seeing how careless and dishonest he is with our money, I am now thinking I will need to divorce him to protect my own financial stability.
I had been fretting about the deposit to a divorce lawyer, but now that seems like an amount of money he/we could clearly live without.
My husband also now claims he won’t try and date anyone anymore, but I do not want to close the relationship, especially given the fact that he has lost my trust.
Any advice is appreciated.
Netizens’ comments
- Obviously your desire to divorce him pre-dates him getting scammed so just divorce him. I’d be more concerned with his ability to navigate the world if he is this easily scammed out of that much money.
- An open relationship doesn’t mean an open wallet. The problem wasn’t that he tried to date but that he lost 11k without discussing it with you first. I’d divorce him because he’s just too dumb.
- Money issues aside there is definitely more to this story than you’re letting on. Why not just divorce before starting this open marriage mess?
- If you don’t trust him, already wanted to divorce and he has now been scammed due to carelessness then just divorce him. Separate your finances, divorce and be on your way to someone more financially responsible.
- Stop dragging it out looking for more excuses to leave. You want to leave, that’s enough reason. Also it’s cruel to continue letting him go on thinking yall are happy and staying together. Call it off for both your sakes.