I (19f) feel like my husband (19m) prioritizes his gaming friends over me. What do I do?
My husband and I have been together for a little over a year, and have been married for about 2 1/2 months. While we were dating, he would spend lots of time with me, and did everything he could to make me feel special. I’ve always known he has online friends he plays video games with, and understand that he occasionally needs his guy time to decompress. I have no problem with that.
The thing that bothers me, is that ever since we’ve been living together (since late September of 2021), his friends have seemed to take first place. He spends about 70-90% of his time outside of work either texting or playing a game with them. When he does play, he’ll play for 3-4 hours at least.
I’ve expressed my concerns about it several times, explaining that we don’t really spend time together anymore unless we’re sleeping, or trying for kids. I’ve explained that for months now, I’ve felt like I’m in second place for him.
He always says something along the lines of “that’s not true. You’re my wife and I love you,” then either guilts me by saying I “never let him play with them” or that he’s “not allowed to have friends ” because of me. Both things are not true. I’m just tired of not getting the quality time I used to get with him. What do I do to get my husband to want to date me again? What do I do to convince him to see that his spouse should come first?