My 28f husband 28m told me he’s been trying to get me to leave him for years
My husband 28m and I 28F have been married nine years. We have a handful of kids together. Today we were bickering and he called me a c-t and told me that he’s been trying to get me to break up with him for years.
This made me really sad and question why he wouldn’t just break up with me if he felt this way.
But he continued to tell me that he’s been trying to get me to leave him. I don’t understand. If he’s unhappy why can’t he leave the relationship?
He constantly calls me names and honestly doesn’t treat me the best. It’s not a surprise that he doesn’t want to be with me.
I just don’t understand why he would rather stay with me and be miserable and treat me with such disrespect when he could easily just divorce me and be happy.
Netizens’ comments
- In my opinion, he doesn’t want to take the blame for a failed marriage. He wants to be able to say that you left him for no reason and the divorce is your fault.
- Its a tactic.
its a twisted way to excuse his behaviour and kind of victim blame – it makes it sound like YOU’VE done something wrong (not leaving him – how is that for mental gymnastics)
Basically when someone wants to mistreat you AND claims all the victimhood in the world and YET maintains the relationship this is a giveaway for an toxic relationship - If he initiates the split, it makes him the bad guy. If he can get you to leave him, he gets to play the victim. He’s sounds narcissistic. Don’t waste anymore of your life with this man, he’s not mentally well.