My husband of 5 years and my son 16 years old don’t get along.
My son was living with his dad for a while and his dad got sick and he can’t take care of him anymore so he moved in with me.
He always yells at his stepdad and his stepdad yells back and swears at him and it gets pretty bad all the time where sometimes I have to involve the police so they can stop.
I know that my son is a teen and he’s very difficult because he thinks he knows everything and he doesn’t listen at all and most of the time he’s disrespectful, he’s also struggling with anxiety and some anger issue, he refuses to go to therapy because he says nothing is wrong with him.
but also I expect my husband to understand sometimes, last time they had a fight where it got a little physical and my son pushed my husband and my husband called the police and asked them to take my son.
Now the problem is my husband had a serious talk with me and he said that I have to send my son to my ex’s family who live in another country and my son doesn’t want to go because he said he can’t live in that environment and that it’s so different and difficult for him to fit in.
Basically my husband said if I don’t send my son then our relationship is over. I feel so hurt because I love my husband but I also have self respect and when he told me that I felt different..I’m thinking of getting a divorce because I’m seriously so tired of this. My husband is a wonderful man and loving and caring, I have a younger child whom he loves so much and the younger one loves him too.
Everything was great until my teen son moved in with me, every night I go to bed feeling like I’ve been through world war 3. It’s frustrating. At the end of the day I have to choose my son.
Because I’m a mother. I feel like at this point compromising my so called “prefect” relationship is my only option. Any insight would be great I appreciate all the advice in advance and sorry for the rant. I know it’s long.