Good morning
My husband has been so hard lately that they hurt me really, really badly. When I say hard, I mean hard like as though its a bat or pole.
He is also curved upwards and he only wants to do it from the back, but it is not doable as I’ve been losing a lot of weight recently.
Is it normal to gain length while older? I think he might just be really hard now with age. It feels bigger and more painful.
He has hip problems so a lot of positions are out of the question. but he always wants to take control and pound too hard from behind after a while.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he doesn’t understand how I’m explaining this to him. Maybe y’all have some better positions or advice for me to explain it a different way.
I don’t want to tell him to stop pounding because I do love it! It’s almost the only thing that gets me to come. I don’t mind a little pain. I just want to feel less stretched in a negative way.
Edit: my husband is very athletic and in shape. I was heavier. He is 35 and I’m 28F.
Netizens’ comments
- Pardon the pun but sounds like a rock going to a hard place. His needs are not above yours, and yours are not above his. If it’s painful you don’t need to accommodate it. Work on positions that work for both of you.
- You need to put your foot down. Stop letting him hurt you. If he’s not listening, stop the session altogether. Stop doing positions that are painful. Stop letting him pound you.
- It is not normal to gain length while getting older, though if he’s dropped some weight lately that might add a bit of length. It sounds to me that maybe he’s on ED medications.