My boyfriend (M 25) doesn’t let me (F 24) have any male friends. Should I break up with him?
My boyfriend and I have been talking for 5 months and exclusive for two. (Not that long, I know.) but I really want this one to work out (I think he has very good qualities as a man better than anyone I’ve met before) but can’t help it is somewhat toxic or excessive.
This is really an opinion post, so let it all out below lol. my bf is so against me hanging out with men especially people I’ve been met before him.
I’ve stated that these people have never been weird or made any advancements toward me. If I see that it becomes too much I distance or separate myself from that person/situation.
Should I break up with him over this?
Netizens’ comments
- Babe, been there done that! At first I gave in, no male friends… and then no social media… no girl friends… no family.. etc. the list goes on. Please be very careful, no one can tell you who you can be friends with or not, never in my life will I go through that again. They start small and eventually they have full control over you. This might seem “extreme” but it’s the truth.
- Doesn’t “let” you have male friends? Doesn’t LET you???
Oh, girl … this relationship only a couple of months old and he’s already trying to control you. Either he trusts you or he doesn’t – and if he trusts you, your male friends shouldn’t be a concern. If he doesn’t trust you, then that’s his problem to solve. You don’t have to make your own life smaller to accommodate his desire to control you. - You probably should tbh. It’s pretty early on in the relationship and he’s already controlling who you’re friends with? Nah, huge red flag and shows he’s incredibly insecure.
- I personally advise breaking up with him. If he’s asking this of you only 5 months in (and only exclusive for TWO), his jealousy and control issues will get even worse over time. This is just the beginning.