I’m a nurse and have been working more hours for the past 6 months to be able to save money to fix something in our house. I’ve saved up to 8,000 in my account and since my husband hasn’t worked since 2020, I’m trying to balance rent and utility payments.
My husband is a gamer, and so are his friends. the only difference is that all his friends are well off and they can afford expensive gaming gear and PCs. They mentioned wanting to go on a trip for some game convention overseas next week and invited my husband but he initially refused. though, he really wanted to go but complained about how his friends bought fancy gaming laptops while all he has is old gear. He asked if I could “lend” him $6,000 dollars so he could buy a new set of laptops and gaming gear but I refused because $6,000 for a laptops is crazy expensive, especially for someone who doesn’t work. he got upset and accused me of holding his employment over his head when he couldn’t help it.
Anyway, I thought we were over this argument but I had discovered that he had pulled the $6,000 dollars out of my account and purchased the set behind my back. I went home and exploded on him. He swore he’d return the money once he gets back from his trip but, I told him he had no right to take the money and spend it while the toilet’s plumbing needs fixing. he said the toilet doesn’t require $6,000 dollars either but the kids room was affected too. I demanded that he return the laptop or pay me the 6,000 right there and then. He told me I was being unfair to him and that he’s feeling stuck because his friends can afford to buy whatever, while he’s being yelled at for wanting something for himself for once.
I told him to get a job and buy himself whatever, he tried to tell me he’ll pay me when he finds a job which is AFTER he gets back from his trip but I refused.
He kept begging me to let him just go on the trip and “we’ll” figure it out later but I said no. if it wasn’t for something as important as the house flooding with leakage problems, I would’ve maybe waited but he’s saying I’m a crazy wife and controlling of his life.