Double Lives: When Family Men Play with Fire at KTV and Overseas Trips
A Singaporean working in an air-related industry is part of a troubling trend among some married men who secretly indulge in risky behaviour. According to a former friend’s account, these men frequently visit KTV lounges at New World Centre, where they look for “extra fun” beyond karaoke, often leading to one-night flings. This pattern of behaviour extends beyond Singapore, with annual trips to Thailand reportedly planned with the same intention.
What is especially concerning is that many of these men are married with children. Despite having families waiting for them at home, they continue to pursue thrill-seeking activities, ignoring the potential consequences of exposing their spouses to health risks such as sexually transmitted infections (STIs). The willingness to risk not only their marriages but also the well-being of their loved ones raises serious questions about their sense of responsibility.
Ignoring Risks & Moral Responsibilities
The informant, who requested anonymity, described a growing discomfort with these men’s behaviour. “I couldn’t understand how these uncles could just act like nothing wrong, then go home to their wives and kids as if they’re the perfect family men,” they said. “It’s so reckless, like playing with fire. One mistake and their whole family kena (gets) the consequences.”
It wasn’t just the casual flings that caused unease, but the mindset behind them: a complete disregard for the trust placed in them by their families. These secret escapades also increase the chance of disease transmission to unsuspecting partners, a risk the men seemed to brush aside without much thought.
“No Excuse for Hantam” – Hidden Aggression
In a related revelation, the same source shared an incident involving one of the men, who allegedly turned aggressive during a heated quarrel with his ex-girlfriend. The man, trained in martial arts, reportedly slapped her across the face, elbowed her throat until she couldn’t breathe, and shoved her to the floor. Out of desperation, she bit him to escape. She later required treatment from a traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) doctor for her injuries.
No matter what, “hantam” (hitting) a woman is unacceptable. A man who uses his fists on a woman shows weakness, not strength. The quiet damage caused by such actions can leave long-lasting scars, both physically and emotionally. It serves as a stark reminder to look out for red flags and speak up early, because silence only protects those causing harm.
Victim did not make a Police report: “Unfortunately, nope. Cos she got no evidence after they broke up”
The above stories highlight the dangers of double lives, where seemingly ordinary individuals hide risky behaviours that endanger not only themselves but also the people who trust them most. As these cases show, the cost of living a secret life can extend far beyond personal shame, potentially devastating entire families.