I’ve been with my boyfriend for less than a year, and I’m studying in NUS (1st year) and his in UTM (Johor, final year), so we can only meet on fortnightly. Looking back, when we first started dating, he used to seize every opportunity to show affection. Even for short duration, he was always enthusiastic to do it. I will attempt to meet his requests, even during my menstrual period.
However, a few months ago, my boyfriend stopped being intimate with me. Even during outings and overnight stays, nothing happened between us.
I’ve tried initiating a few times, but I’ve either been rejected or brushed off. I’ve raised the issue with him several times, but it hasn’t led to any significant changes.
I don’t believe that being together necessarily requires a physical relationship, and I don’t consider myself to have strong desires.
However, this sudden change makes it difficult for me not to think negatively, questioning if he still loves me, and so on.
His explanations are inconsistent each time, making it hard for me to be convinced. On one occasion, I accidentally discovered that he regularly watches adult content on his laptop indicating that he does have desires but not towards me.
He treats me well, and our relationship is generally close. We video chat every day, but he tends to avoid S topics and intimate actions like changing, bathing etc.
Additionally, he sometimes struggles to maintain an er*****n, and I’m unsure if that could be affecting his libi**. Prior to that, he can have at least double shots, and occasionally even up to a third shot.
However, I’m hesitant to ask, fearing it might hurt his self-esteem.
I’ve already brought up the issue several times, and I don’t want to ask him again. It makes me feel low and as if I have excessive desires. Despite being in a semi-long-distance relationship, is it normal for things to get monotonous so quickly?
He is my initial love, and I have wholeheartedly given him everything. He also pledged to marry me after he graduates and referred to me as “老婆”. I’d like to hear the opinions of other women. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and sometimes it makes me want to cry.