A woman shared how she feels alone despite being married for 6 years, because her husband is absorbed with his work.
Here is the story:
“When should I give up on my marriage?
I’ve been married for 6 years but I feel like I’m alone. We get along well, but my husband is absorbed by his work. It wasn’t like that before we got married, as he used to spend more time having fun.
In the past few years, all he cares about is work. Hanging out with me seems like a chore. It’s great to be serious about work, but it’s gotten to the point where he complained he used to be productive during mealtimes but now he is less productive because I keep talking to him during meals.
We are not doing anything interesting or fun together. All my favourite things, I’m left to do by myself because he has no interests outside of work. He even asked me to hang out with friends instead. I have to eat my favourite foods on my own because he doesn’t like them.
I tried to do something for him by cooking dishes that he likes. However, it’s never good enough for him and it’s very difficult to please him. He’d rather just eat out. I take care of all the household chores and also call when repairs are needed. I feel like I’m alone and I’m tired of always asking him to participate more. He never does anything for me or with me unless I ask.
Now it feels like if we have kids, it’s going to be a chore rather than a fun thing to do together. I have talked to him about it and he’s prepared to do it, but he openly said taking care of kids would be a chore to him, although he’s willing to. It seems like he’s being responsible but not enthusiastic. If so, what’s the point?
We get along well and agree on many issues, but I just feel like I’m all by myself. He feels more like a good friend and housemate than a life partner.
Should I move on?”
Editor’s note: I come from a generation where if things are broken, we fix them and not get new ones. You should try fixing it.