Not your Cinderella kind of story
I’ve been working here in Singapore as a house hold helper for a decade now.
I am an unwed single mom with a teenage son. In my first five years here working I’ve met a local Singaporean guy and we became a couple for a year. It ended so quick because I found out that he’ll marry the one that his parents want him to spend with for the rest of his life.
Yes, it’s an arranged marriage. Why? Because I am a maid and she works and earns more than my ex, i am a single mom and she’s single without baggage, i am financially unstable and she came from a well off family both here in Singapore and her home country.
T’was devastating actually because my ex and his family thought I will just use him as an atm. Knowing in all our dates i didn’t ask him to spend money for me. We both shares or split the bill consistently. Raised my son on my own without asking anyone to help me. I am not hypocrite that we don’t money, we do! But it doesn’t mean we will not work and leeching others.
I still remain in my composure. And chose to understand what he had done.
We still ended up being friends despite everything happened. But our communication has cut short to respect each other’s decision. Fast forward two years. He contacted me again and ranted what kind of married life he ended up for. Though his wife earns more they still don’t have savings.
Reasons are… She live her life like she wasn’t married at all. Girl’s night out, drinking, buying expensive clothes and bags and doesn’t want to have a child because she’s afraid that if she’ll give birth she’ll be stuck at home and it’ll ruin her hourglass body figure.
My answer to his rant? Nothing.. i kept quiet and listened. I don’t know how to answer him by the way. I am still in love with my ex and yet at the back of my mind it’s telling no. It’s wrong. He’s already tied and i need to move on.
Thought this only happen in the movie. And yeah it happened to me.
I am no expert whom you’ll marrying one day. But mindset. Check the mindset.