Is it wrong to have my husband pick between MIL or me?
I’ve been with my husband for 10 years now and time after time he continues to always defend my MIL over me. I’ve had enough.
Is it wrong to have my husband pick me or her? I’m so tired of crap she puts me through. I have been struggling lately after having our 5th baby, and I really needed some support from my husband.
He went to his mom to vent about me, and she just keeps getting into his mind about how I just need to be miserable, I need to get over myself and he has 5 other kids to love and I’m not important.
She has told him over and over again that I bring nothing to the table (I’m a stay at home mom, who solely takes care of the kids in everything they do) and has told him multiple times that his money is his money and I just waste it.
she makes him send her money to have as a savings because all I do is spend? Aka- groceries and the kids activities.
I don’t do anything for myself at all. I haven’t cut my hair in years, I haven’t done anything for myself in years, I don’t even wear makeup anymore because I can’t even buy it without getting shamed.
Meanwhile, my husband has traveled multiple times for fun, gone to multiple concerts, and movies etc. and everytime I ask for some me time for me, he tells his mom, and has his mom tell him how selfish I am. My husband entirely believes everything she says about me.
I didn’t even get anything done or for my birthday, because his mom was doing a photo shoot for her birthday and he was paying for it. Her birthday was months away.
I just gave birth 3 weeks ago, and I am severely struggling. I need help from him emotional and just to feel like he is there for me.
Is it wrong if I finally tell him I need him to pick me or his mom? I can’t keep living like this. I honestly think at this point my life as dramatic as it sounds depends on it.
I am not in a good place. And I need to be able to get help without his mom telling him I’m attention seeking, mental health isn’t real, and I’m weak.