I married my then girlfriend when I was still in NTU. Why?
I got her pregnant and I decided to be responsible for it. The problem is my girlfriend is from a rich family (good class bungalow level) and my family is not so well to do.
My dad is a taxi driver and my mum is a housewife, I got into NTU on a scholarship. Our wedding is a simple affair, with a wedding banquet at a 4-star hotel without any photo booth. My parents lent me the money to buy our wedding bands (nothing fancy too) , photoshoots, wedding gown and the banquet itself.
We did not even have any honeymoon as I simply cannot afford it. I am thankful to my parents and also my wife and her family. They did offer to pay for everything ,but after discussions with my wife, i decided against it.
You can call me proud or stupid but i feel its the right thing to do. I married my wife because I love her and our child and not because of her family’s wealth. My parents-in-law are very supportive and never once look down on me but they do expressed their concern if I am able to juggle my role as a student, husband and father.
I was also worried but my wife is my pillar of strength during this period of time when I juggle these roles. I manage to graduate and we applied our BTO together. Although we had our arguments, my wife never complains that she regretted our marriage and leaving behind her 大小姐lifestyle. She used to go on multiple shopping trips per year overseas and do not think twice about spending her money on branded goods.
She became a loving mother that will help me to compare the prices of diapers and milk powders so that we can save some money. She rather i save the money for our children’s education rather then spending on gifts for her.
I owe everything that I have now to her. I can’t say i am super successful now but I am currently an assistant director in a stat board. I am happily married with 2 kids and a loving wife who is not materialistic.
Trust me there are girls who are not materialistic who are out there and try cares for you and I am super lucky to have her.”