In 2019 my wife got very close with a colleague. I asked her if she had a crush on her 19y.o colleague and she admitted she did. She is like 12 years older than him
She also admitted that at times they flirt and that she liked it. This shocked me and all of this came out right before my birthday vacation we were taking. The entire vacation she was texting this guy (yes, including on my birthday) I wanted to stay out and go to bars but she (wife) wanted to go back to our hotel on my birthday.
This continued all the time. She would go to bars with this guy and go over to his house and not come home all night. I called her screaming one night telling her to come home (immature) and she stayed at her house for another 2 hours after my call. One night, she said she was going to the bar with one of her male friends. I had work early the next morning and at this point, she had sworn to me that she had cut off contact with the colleague.
I went to sleep not thinking anything of it. She comes home super late (whatever) wakes me up so I get up to go pee and I’m watching a different colleagues Instagram story and low and behold – my wife had gone to a party at the house of THAT GUY I think she cheated on me with.
Fairly soon after that, the coworker moved and the problem (supposedly) stopped. A few weeks ago I saw my wife had liked a few of that colleague’s pictures on Instagram recently (despite unfollowing her). She claims it was an accident when sending her posts to someone else making fun of her, and I don’t believe her. Because of this and some other lies, she’s told I’ve made us go to couples counselling recently but I feel like it’s too late.
I want to throw in the towel because I know she cheated on me in my gut. I feel like an idiot for trusting her. I know it would break my heart if we split up, but I can’t get over it. It’s like every time she tries to criticize me all I can think is “so what, you cheated on me.”
Fast forward to 2022, I should have divorce with her back then, cause she did it again. Once a cheater forever a cheater.