A few months ago, my wife and I found out she was pregnant. Around a month later, we found out my mother was terribly ill and in the hospital, in KL. We decided to take the aeroplane to KL while the borders were still open.
Five hours before the flight, my wife found out she had a miscarriage. She was rushed to the hospital, but I was now stuck between staying with her and visiting my terribly sick mother. My wife begged me to stay, but I could not since the plane tickets were expensive and there was no guarantee my mother would be alive when she felt better.
When I told her, she started sobbing and refused to talk to me. I felt bad the entire flight. When I arrived and hot picked up by my sister, she asked me where my wife was and I told her the truth, which she started yelling at me, telling me that I’m a A-hole and she’s a fool for being with someone like me.
My brothers think I did the right thing. I’ve received millions of angry messages from my in-laws. My mother died two days after I arrived.
A day after the funeral, I went back home. My wife refuses to talk to me, even though I’ve tried to apologize and explained that I just lost my mother. So, am I the jerk?
Here are what netizen think:
This is the situation you can’t win. Your wife is rightfully angry you weren’t there, and the pain of losing the baby has put blinkers on her for the time being. She won’t be able to see anything but her own loss at the moment. On the flip side, I couldn’t get to see my Dad before he died (borders) and let me tell you, that’s not something you get over. I expect your family wouldn’t have let you hear the end of it if you’d missed those last days with your mom. I am so, so sorry for your losses. Both of them. I hope you can all move forward to a place where you can heal together.
This is the typical “we both drop in the sea who you going to save”