Hello, I’m still trying to process this whole thing. Last night while my wife was asleep I was going to turn on some music from her phone to help her stay asleep. We have always allowed the other to use and search our phones with nothing to hide.
Somehow I clicked on messaging then minimized it. Something gripped me about the message I saw though. I reopened it and saw a name I did not know. The message was very flirty with some face pics but nothing else.
I know I should of just put the phone down but I couldn’t I went through one of her apps I knew she used and saw a conversation with a guy and wanted to know how long they had been talking. At this point, my stomach was in the pit. As I scrolled up I saw messages calling each other cute names and even a couple saying she loved him by his name. I never got the top as I scrolled I found photos of her in nightgowns with a ‘toy’ between her breast and a picture of her bare.
Talking about how good his KKJ will be.
I woke her up to talk and she told me he lived in another country and that it was just a fantasy. She acknowledged she went too far but she has since not done so. She will not let me see her phone but I know I saw the message of flirting with at least 3 guys before I woke her.
She wants us to move on and work on our relationship but I feel a feeling I can’t describe and was looking for some help.
Edit. Forgot to add we have 3 kids together and have been married for 7 years.
I’m at work and I really appreciate everyone taking time to for advice