Cny is coming and honestly although it’s supposed to be a festival where families gather together it’s very dreadful for me.
As compared to my older brother who is more cheerful, smart, popular and handsome. I am the exact opposite (quiet and awkward). So I grew up with my aunties comparing both my brother and I , with many criticisms directed at me.. not as handsome, not as smart, why so short. As my patents always told me that it’s important to maintain harmony I always put up with all these criticisms.
Last year before cny bro and I both got attached and his gf is a model so she’s really good looking in society standard. My gf on the other hand is more of the normal looking in society standards (ofc to me in my heart she’s the best and prettiest). As we just started dating last year I did not bring her back for cny.. (she felt that it was too soon), my bro on the other hand brought his gf back and got many praises .. Woww gf pretty, rich etc
This year I plan to bring my gf back but overheard one of my relative telling my mother : “eh this year your small son bringing gf back.. how is she like? Prettier than bigger son gf? I want to compare leh..”
As I grew up being compared to my elder bro, I know the feeling of being compared .. it’s really very hurtful and I do not want my gf to be subjected to that treatment . I know my gf will be very hurt as well .. As such I’m wondering in order to protect her should I just not bring her to cny this year as well?
any advice?
I really hate those relatives during cny.. it’s a festival meant for everyone to gather not gossip.