Hey guys, is it normal to be more excited to text, chat, and share things so frequently with a friend of the opposite gender, even though I’m already attached?
I’m very close to a female colleague-turned-friend, and I’m 100% aware that we are truly platonic, and I absolutely have no feelings to her.
She is also engaged, and I definitely have zero intention to ruin their relationship. However, I’m on cloud nine whenever we text, we make fun of each other, we joke a lot, we literally click very well and can know what each other is thinking, and even when it comes to ordering food, most of the time we would go for the same dish. Whenever I face problems, I would reach out to her to talk about it.
I mean I still talk to my girlfriend about my problems, but i enjoy talking more to my friend. We can literally talk during work, during lunch, after work, on weekends. Is this normal?
Even when she talks to me about her fiancé, I would be supportive, and never once feels jealous about their happy life.
Is it normal for a guy to be talking to a platonic female friend so frequently?
Here are what netizens think:
- Yes very normal. Platonic friendships exist. That’s after you both decide nothing will happen and permanently friendzone the other. In your case, I think you are still figuring that intermediate stage out. Tread carefully since both are with other partners.
- Read somewhere before platonic love can be stronger than romantic love. Personally feel as long as you keep your partner up to date and nothing to hide, and she is okay with it, then there is nothing wrong at all. If she disagrees, then you have to start keeping distance from your friend. Your partner’s opinion is more important than what other people opinions after-all.
- Yes its normal and you are not special. I talk to my long time female bestie so much I think she understands me more than my wife. I also share personal stuff to her not bcos I dun trust my wife but cos some things you can share with frens without consequences unlike spouses. She’s kinda like the little sister I never had. Yeah so… its normal… at least to me.