My gf and I have been dating for a year and we want to move in together.
We want a 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment near my work. I’m a 2nd year pathology resident and my residency is 5 years long. She works from home and wants an office.
She also makes 120k and I only make 68k. So our rent is $2800/month + utilities and she wants to go half on both rent and utilities so we would both pay roughly $1400 a month.
Because she is using one of the rooms as her office I feel like she should pay more so I should pay $1000 and she should pay $1800. She thinks even if she is using an extra room because living near the hospital is very expensive I should pay half because we could get a cheaper place if I don’t live near work.
She thinks is because we are paying more to live near my work so I don’t have to pay for petrol I should pay half of the rent. I find she’s being selfish because she makes much more than mean, and once I complete my residency I can easily make $350k a year or more.
But according to her, it’s not fair for her to wait 3 years to “potentially get paid back” because we could break up and she would have “subsidized” me. To me, if she isn’t willing to pay a bit more to put some skin in the game she’s being a gold digger and waiting for me to make bank without giving anything in the first place.
We argued about this a few times and I just want to know if I’m crazy in my thinking or she’s being selfish.
Here are what netizens think:
- You’re not married. You should be splitting rent 50/50. Also, in this situation, you’re the gold digger.
- growing up i 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 i knew a couple where this wasn’t the case. doctor, nurse wife, cute kids my age. turns out she was the “upgrade” he met during residency. during the divorce he fought to keep the kids & won. daughter told me as an adult she “has no clue” what happened to her mom. devastating!
- Then get a rental with only one room.