Am I wrong for getting “favors” from ex-gf?
Some years ago I ended a 2 year relationship with this girl who really liked me. I didn’t really bother to keep in contact, partly because of guilt (because I dumped for to woo a much younger girl).
The non-contact lasted about 3 years? But there was this year I wanted to go Japan, and knowing she was going Japan almost every year, I offered to go together. It was something we talked about before anyway, going Japan together.
So anyway, she planned everything, and I just tagged along. While I felt she still had feelings for me, I didn’t, and I told myself to keep things respectable and my horniness in my pants because I knew I didn’t want to get back with her.
On day 3 or 4, we were at a private ryokan onsen. She asked that we wear swimwear while soaking in the onsen. She didn’t say why, but we broke up already, so I guess she didn’t want me to see her naked. I agreed, but as we soaked in the hot water, my blood started to steam, and when we got back to our rooms, I plotted to get some hanky panky with her.
I started off massaging her, talking to her, and most importantly, listening to her. Slowly, after about an hour of hard work, she opened up and started massaging me back. That’s when I knew I was on to something. I continued massaging her a bit, and at the right time, jokingly poked her boob to test water.
She simply let out a shy “hey!”. No anger from her! That’s when I knew I got it in the bag. I just told her I couldn’t tahan anymore and grabbed her nei nei pok and started kissing her. She kissed back and my fingers went south. Things got steamy and off my pants go. I ended the night by offering some organic protein shake for her to drink.
After that night, I continued to get favors from her, and she complied, even though we broke up years ago and were not together. Put in bluntly, we were just FWB for that 3 weeks. After we came back to SG, I kinda drifted away again and we ended up not contacting again, so she probably felt used. Planning to go Japan again soon, so just randomly thought of her again.
Now, AITA? I mean, she’s a grown adult. She could have said no, but she didn’t. She could have refused to continually serve me throughout the weeks, but she didn’t. She had a choice. So I feel she shouldn’t feel used, and just treat it as 2 adults having a “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” moment.”