MAN “FINISHED” ON F-BUDDY BUT REFUSE TO LET HER USE HIS TOILET BECAUSE “IT’S ONLY A HOOKUP”

I (21F) hooked up with a boy (24M). He came but didn’t allow me to shower at his place. Advices?

We didn’t plan it, but he came heavily on me. So I really needed a shower to clean my upper body. He refused because it was “only a hookup” and handled me some tissue.

I cleaned a little but I was very upset because I had to wear my dress on dirty skin, so I have to wash it now. Also coming back home smelling like come is not good.

The date instead was good and except this he was really good with me all the night. I was planning to meet him again, but this is making me reconsider it.

Personal experience or advices?

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like he’s not planning on seeing you again anyway, tbh. I’m sure you can find a guy to sleep with that treats people with basic decency and respect.
2. I wouldn’t see this one again. It’s called basic decency.
3. He can come on you but not let you use his shower to clean up his stuff? Wtf? I wouldn’t want to see someone like this again, not worth your time.
4. He treated you well before sleeping with you then he treated you horribly after that. Why would you want to see a guy that treats you badly at all?
   Have more respect for yourself even when it’s just a hookup. Basic human decency should be a minimum bar for seeing a person again. Your hookup failed that bar.
5. Don’t get back with him, even hookups deserve respect, and he couldn’t give you the minimum. Like, how long do you have to date to get showering privileges? That’s really disgusting and he needs to learn how to treat people better. You didn’t deserve that disrespect. If the date was great except the amount of disrespect it ended on, that counts as part of the date. You can do better.
6. He showed you his true colors once he got what he wanted. Don’t waste your time and energy on a guy who can’t be bothered to let you take a quick 5 minute shower after you were vulnerable and trusting with your body to him.