I found out my wife cheated on me we are both in our early to mid-20s.
So to give you a little background me and my wife have been together for 4 years come august. Last August we got married and by no means are we picture-perfect, we had a lot of bumps in the road in the beginning.
We luckily got thru a lot of those problems, but I can admit in the beginning I was good to her but towards the middle and closer to now, I neglected her. I wasn’t being a good boyfriend at the time, but she stayed by my side thru everything.
Late last year I had started to notice her attitude/mood change towards me very cold/callous. She wasn’t the same girl I was used to (sweet, flirty, funny)plus she was on the phone more with guys and very secretive with her phone.
So I confronted her about it once it was too much for me to bear. She admitted that she had lost feelings towards me and she was tired of carrying the relationship on her back. I was devastated because prior to that was trying really hard to change my ways and not just giving her a hal-half bo chap attitude “okay, I’m sorry I’ll change” but not sticking to it.
I was actually doing it without even saying anything. I understand that I’m not obligated/entitled to anything from her I just thought If she saw that I was changing we could fix it for good. Well I found out in early January that she was talking to someone. To say I was devastated is an understatement, but I didn’t want to give up hope.
We talked about it a lot Around Valentine’s Day weekend me and her got back together and she told me she blocked the guy she was talking to. Well, the other day our son was playing with her phone and he had pulled up a picture w her and a guy in what looked like a hotel and she says something along the lines of no that I wasn’t in a hotel that it was at a party in someone’s room.
I don’t try to argue with her so I brush it off. Well, I come home today and my son had her phone while she napped for a few minutes. So I grabbed the unlocked phone and he was on her pictures. I look to my horror and she had a video of her and this guy having intercourse.
I about lost it, and I couldn’t stop crying. She hears me and wakes up, she comes into the living room and I toss the phone at her. She immediately denies anything and I told her I saw everything and to stop lying already and to once and for all tell me the truth. So she wants to talk but I have nothing to say, bc I always told her that I can forgive a lot of things and having intercourse another person isn’t one of them.
I love this woman to death guys should I give her a second chance or do I end it with her and co-parent? I’m so confused right now. My mental health has always been an issue that runs in my family but with me specifically, I have a lot of unresolved issues. I need advice please and thank you.