At this point dating for me as a woman has become dangerous.
Seriously. I’m not exaggerating when I say that we are not safe from harassment (or worse) whether we give our numbers out or decline to share.
Dating isn’t even fun anymore.
Obviously threats to women in the dating sphere aren’t new, but I swear it seems to have gotten insanely worse because no matter what I do, I do not feel safe when going out and trying to mind my business.
Y’all I hardly ever give my number out. I always say no directly, or if I feel uncomfortable I try to make an excuse or in worse situations, I will take the guys number down so they leave me alone. I’ve given it out TWICE in the last 4 months and each time it has resulted in scary behavior from the men.
I’m just so freaked out my stomach has been in knots.
The other night I went out with a friend and this guy kept pressing me for my number from the beginning of the night until the end even though I told him SO MANY TIMES I was not interested and just gave a flat NO. Still trying to keep the mood light and be nice of course.
I think he followed me and my friend out when we left because we walked to another block and he walks up to us chatting again, and keeps pressing for it so I stupidly gave in because we were annoyed and didn’t want things to turn sour. Very dumb decision on my part since I usually do not give in.
This man has called me 8 times in under 24 hours. Constant texts and then insulting me because I won’t reply and I finally texted him to please stop contacting me and he went off.
The sad part is that some people will say “well you just shouldn’t have given it out” and I will be blamed of course and they don’t understand that I am constantly declining advances all the time from men.
I hardly ever give my number out ( I use a burner number when meeting new people) and I DEFINITELY do not give out my socials often to men I meet. It doesn’t matter if I meet them in person or from a dating app, this behavior is constant and I have no idea how I’m supposed to date??? Like wtf am I supposed to do.
I don’t know if anyone else feels this way but fuck. It’s like the only single available dudes I come in contact with or that approach me are creepy or crazy.