Rs and marriage
A relationship while dating is like testing whether he or she is suitable for you.
Firstly there must be some sort of liking, gradually love, while you observe the characteristics, background of the partner. Marriage is like an agreement signing ceremony, negotiation is carried out during a relationship while dating. During which, both must discuss their goals, spending habits living habits, what they wanna be after marriage and how much they earn (impt), their family relatives and so on.
Both must compromise and come out with an agreement (your money is your money, my money is my money, but joint acct is out money), earn relatively the same pay unless u wanna pay for ur partner, how to pay for wedding expenses and so on.
Only when agreement is out then can you proceed to 求婚。Be realistic, love is practical. Girls, pls wake up from ur princess and tai tai dream and pay for 50% of expenses. Given that current society girls earn more, Chinese tradition of girls losing out when wedding thru angbao and all those should be abolished, if not the marriage rate will continue to decline.
Yes, rising cost is the main factor but with the girl working and contributing , rising cost will be less of a problem and the guy likely agree to marriage. If not, girls, no meter how u pressure for marriage,, the guy wun move cos you are not worthy though he love you. You haven’t proven urself to be for the family. Those tai tai deserve not to get married, single forever.
Guys, do not go after pretty girls and tai tai who expect you to pay,it is not gonna work and they are just a 花瓶。
Here are what netizens think:
- Guy like you deserve to be single. If you can ensure that you can take on 5mths of pregnancy along with all the morning sickness as well as labor pain and management then talk about 50%. If not, life is never fair. If life is fair, botok will have hair.
- everything wanna split 50:50. Pregnancy, childbirth, all the household chores & taking care of kids you do 50%?? If not then where’s your 50% contribution? Want to split everything 50:50? Get a housemate.
- No wonder fewer and fewer women want to get married nowadays. Have to work full time, have to do all the household chores, take care of children, shoulder the burden of pregnancy and childbirth alone, have to take shit from in laws if you’re unlucky…. what do men bring to the table exactly for us to take on all these burdens And having any standards at all and wanting to be treated well apparently makes us “gold diggers” and “leeches”. Yucks. No thanks!
- Got princesses around, also got man child around. No wonder more and more youngsters don’t wish to get married.
- Everyone is thinking about what are they going to get out of a relationship instead of thinking of ways to be a better partner.
- OP I think you stay single better. You could have met a princess, but you don’t sound like a great catch either from the way you wrote your post.