I’ve been married to my Thai wife, for nearly ten years. We have two wonderful kids, and life has been good.
Until recently, that is she has always been controlling in our relationship, but lately, it has become extreme. Every aspect of our lives is managed and dictated by her. She decides where we go, what we do, and even how much money I can spend. She’s always checking up on me and asking where I am and who I’m with.
She even follows me sometimes
I feel like I’m living in a prison.
It’s not just the controlling nature that’s causing me distress. She is very rude and ungrateful. She constantly belittles me and insults me in front of others. She also tries to control our children, which I won’t tolerate.
I try to talk to her about it, but she just accuses me of not understanding her and not respecting her. She says that I’m too weak and that she needs to do this to protect me and the family.
I know that she loves me, but her over-controlling behaviour is taking a toll on our relationship. I’m starting to feel like I can’t trust her and that I can’t be myself around her. I’m constantly anxious and on edge.
I want to work on our relationship and make it better, but I’m not sure how. I can’t continue living like this.
I’ve heard of people going to marriage counselling, but she refuses to go. She says that she doesn’t need any help and that she knows what she’s doing. I’m not sure what else I can do.
I know that she is a good person and that she means well, but she needs to learn how to be less controlling. I want her to be happy and to be able to trust me, but I can’t do that if she’s constantly trying to control me.
I know that she looks nice, touches nice, and even F nice, but I can’t take this over-controlling behaviour anymore. I’m at my wit’s end and I need help.