Unlike most men…
Unlike most men, I am not career driven or ambitious. I am content to just make enough for myself. I am tired of this rat race and I want to focus on enjoying things I like in life.
In terms of looking for a life partner, I prefer it if a woman can take care of herself instead of relying me. And we can enjoy each other’s company. Honestly, I don’t want to have kids. If I have the money I would much rather use it on myself than kids – there are many things I haven’t done or experienced myself.
In the past, I was honest during dates. However, after sharing my views, women usually don’t want to have much to do with my after. Somehow they equate my lack of willingness to take care of them (especially as they’re completely able to do so themselves) as being irresponsible or selfish.
Instead, I think I am more of a feminist than anyone as I firmly believe that women in Singapore are more than able to take care of themselves.
Nowadays, instead of being overly honest, because women are so into romance and K-drama, I do promise the world.
The funny thing is many women are extremely capable of taking themselves and others. When it comes down to it, despite whatever promises, they’re capable of carrying their own weights and even take care of others like men, in laws, children and so on.
My advice for men is to not be too honest. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong in this. Being too honest is like going for dates without make up or dressing up. It’s not a good start and certainly will not end well!
Here are what netizens think:
- I read not even halfway i gave up pls stay single .. dont destroy other parents daughters
- I agree with you that you can’t be too honest especially to ladies but that doesn’t mean that you should lie to them. Instead you need to have a filter and know what to say and what not to say. During the dating phase, the girl will judge you to see if you are the right partner for her. Unfortunately as a guy, guys are known to be a “provider”, I know it’s unfair to guys sometimes when ladies expect u to keep on providing for them but not all ladies are like that. There are some independent ladies out there too. Usually the prettier the girl, the more demanding and the more they expect you to provide for them. Simply because pretty girls tend to attract a lot of high quality men so their expectation will be higher. Hope this helps!
- They are not rejecting you because you are honest, consider other qualities you have that might be a turn off. From the way you write you seem like a very boring and non charismatic person. Every girl ends up taking care of herself and possibly kids and or husband, they are not pets.