I am in my first job after close to 3.5 years and I wanted to quit badly. I need to know how do I resign without appearing confrontational.
Working in a tech sector and as a regulator is probably one of the best places to be in right now. However, I felt that my ties with my supervisor is getting from bad to worse. It’s either a case which she doesn’t understand what I said, or to simply micromanaged me, which I think it’s a blatant act of mistrust in me.
Just today, I said something and she gaslighted me by rolling her eyes.
The workplace is good, offering lots of skills upgrading and I guess that’s the reason why I persisted on. However, I don’t see myself staying there for long. I am probably just got to endure through this tech recession while using the company’s resources to upskill myself. To be honest, skills are something people will never be able to take away from you.
I intend to apply for an internal transfer or to simply leave the public sector for a job, even if I have to settle for a pay cut than to have my lifespan cut short.
I am wondering if is it a must to speak to my supervisor before I tender my resignation? Or do I just simply submit a resignation to HR and just inform her after I am done? And how do I do it without being confrontational?
Thoughts?
Here are what netizens think:
- I would just send an email to my superior and cc HR – to tender my resignation. You are not obligated to give a reason for the resignation, as long as you fulfil the notice period (eg. One / two months notice). Put an effective date/ or last day of service. I would not put my (real) reason for resignation. And I won’t burn my bridges. The world is small, if you get to another similar industry or one day, you may meet again some time in the future, so you don’t want to put a barricade in your future path. Just my thoughts.
- If you have made the decision to leave, then the best thing to do is to draft a simple resignation letter and first inform your boss and then send to her and HR. Do not need to state reasons like cannot stand your boss etc, just keep it professional as 1. Never burn bridges, and 2. Your boss still need to handle your exit matters, including your time during notice period and approve leave clearing, or even last pay etc. You do not need to state any personal reasons, or if you really feel the need to, can do so during the exit interview with HR on your last day, or leave glassdoor review / submit feedback after leaving.
- I have come to realize that when one has decided to resign, there is no point persuading them to stay. Because they would already have deliberated about it for a long time (relative to the person’s perspective) before making the final decision. When I was planning to leave my job/s, I planned my exit carefully. Because I knew that I was really determined to leave and even if I were to ask to stay, things will never change and I will be going through the same vicious cycle.