I haven’t dated in four years, focusing instead on self-improvement, building my character, and increasing my income.
While I’ve had some hookups during this time, I’ve struggled to find a girlfriend. The hookup culture makes me apprehensive, and it’s difficult to trust people in the dating scene.
Too much cheating going on nowadays
Infidelity is prevalent in today’s relationships, which I find disheartening. If one desires to be with others, I question why they’d commit to a monogamous relationship in the first place.
When I’m in a relationship, I find it challenging to even look at others, let alone consider dating or spending time with someone else in bed.
Despite people often showing interest in me, such as in cafés while I’m reading, I lack the confidence to approach and engage with them due to my concerns about the hookup culture.
I’ve had hookups in the past but have come to realize that the experience isn’t for me.
The question remains: are there people who truly love sincerely? Seeing people in monogamous relationships contemplating infidelity makes me feel disillusioned.
Netizens’ views
- Just remember not everyone is like that. Ask about their relationship history and ask other people about their character.
One thing a cheater is going to do is lie to you often. Trust your gut and don’t sleep with someone until you get to know them well. - It’s important to always be pursuing quality. There are some really awesome people out there who are doing some wonderful things in their life.
Find some things in your life that give you meaning were you feel like you’re giving something back to society, and then find some other people like that too. You can develop a confidence in yourself, and it will be easier for you to see quality.