Those relationship that has strict parents
How do you deal with your gf/bf having strict parents in your early 20s?
By strict I mean not having dates/meeting up every week, keeps talking about your partner negatively daily, keeps calling/texting you about your whereabouts thinking you are meeting your partner etc.
I would love to hear people who has experienced this and how did both of you two manage to overcome this and eventually get married.
Here are what netizens think
- currently in one now.
have to bite the bullet and tahan lor. his side broke us up before so our solution was for me to pretend that i don’t exist as his gf. this means no going to each other’s houses, no talking about dating to his parents (i tried for mine and they said no too – because i haven’t start working) and that we can only hang out outside of our houses as friends. (i also don’t like having people around in my house anyway so it doesn’t affect me too much)
we have plans to get married but i also foresee that the road will not be an easy one. rn our main goal is to achieve financial stability first then use money to ‘manipulate’ our parents.
- Just leave, the parents talking s**t about you nonstop is going to get to his/her head eventually. Been there before, her parents convinced her that I would go broke and borrow money from her just because I do stocks/options. I never yolo or do any risky stuff.
- I think before, my mother hated the idea of me having a bf. Its like someone stealing away her daughter from her. So what I did was, make my boyfriend look damn good in their eyes. To help them realise, actually he just wants to take care of her.
So mothers day gift, we gave her a special label printer. And i said, it was my boyfriends idea. Talk about his ambitions and ideas sometimes. He sends me home everytime, so I make sure to mention that too. I would also say we go out to have meals, hiking and how we spend time with his own family.
Gradually, my mother started to came around. She invited him for dinners, CNY, and very soon, she was also comfortable with me staying over at his place. Just that he cannot stayover at mine’s. Hahaha
I think they are very strict initially, is either they cant let go, they dont trust or they have attachment issues la. Most importantly, they need to feel comfortable with your partner. Its different for each parent, I guess.