My gf (23F) always complains about things and I’m (24M) considering leaving her.
So I need advice, my gf constantly complains about things that are super small and irrelevant and she just rants about it like it’s the end of the world.
Every time I see her she has something new to complain about and I’m so tired of it, I just want to hear something positive for once.
I have a lot that I go through and I take most of it to the chin to try to keep my stress out of our relationship. She does the opposite and that usually means me dealing with my stress and hers.
She also is very insecure about when I go out and hang with my friends without her and even when I invite her she never wants to go.
She always throws a fit and complains about how I will do things with them and not her which is totally not true at all.
Some days I question if I even love her anymore because of how much it has pushed me away but I know deep down I still do.
I just need help because I don’t know if after 5 years this is something worth ending it all over.
- By the time you are using absolute terms like “always” or “never” it is usually too late. You at that point are only seeing the negative of a situation and generally speaking out of exasperation. Sometimes people have to be apart to learn to appreciate the other and to personally grow..maybe it is time.
- That is exhausting. Have you tried talking to her about it? In the past I have done some irritating things that have bothered my husband and I didn’t even realize I was doing it. Once he explained how annoying it was I have always been more self-conscious of myself and would like to think I have improved. Maybe she doesn’t even understand how bad she is doing it. Not saying you should stay with her, but if you did want to give it a little longer try talking to her first.
- Sounds like you have matured past her. You are completely correct, too. Who wants to go thru life complaining, who wants to hear people complain?
If you don’t think this will change and you don’t want to be around it, move on. There are plenty of young women who are grateful and happy with what they get. This is a mindset that your girlfriend does not have.
You are less likely to find a partner that is grateful and happy if you are with your current girlfriend and it is not kind to look for someone else while you are with her.