I’ve been friends with my group of buddies since poly.
We’ve been through thick and thin over the years, and I always thought we would remain friends forever. But lately, I’ve noticed that every time I hear from them, it’s because they need something.
Whether it’s money, advice, a place to crash, or a ride somewhere, it always seems like they’re looking for something from me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind helping out a friend in need, but it’s starting to become a bit much. All I hear from them these days is, “Hey, can you do this for me?” or “Can you lend me some money?”
I feel like I’m being taken advantage of, like I’m some sort of resource for my friends to dip into whenever they need something. What happened to the days when we used to hang out just for fun? When did it become all about what I can do for them?
I understand that sometimes people need help, and I don’t want to be a heartless jerk who can’t lend a helping hand. But I also don’t want to be taken advantage of. It’s exhausting having to constantly be there for my friends, only to have them disappear again when their need is met.
I’m starting to resent the fact that the only time I hear from them is when they need something. I’m sick of being taken for granted and used for my resources. I want to be appreciated and respected, not used as a doormat.
I’m starting to think about cutting ties with my friends, at least for a while. If they don’t value me enough to reach out just to say hello, then why should I stay in their lives?
I want to be friends with people who appreciate me and want to be in my life, not just use me for what I can do for them.
It’s hard to separate my emotions from the situation. I still care about my friends, but I’m starting to resent them too. I feel like I’m being taken for granted, and it’s beginning to take a toll on my mental health.
I don’t want to be taken advantage of anymore. I want to be appreciated and respected, not used as a resource. I want to be friends with people who genuinely care about me, not just those who need something from me.
It’s time for me to take a stand and put myself first.