At wits end with girlfriend
I’m a 30M and my gf is 29F. Been in a relationship for 4 going 5 years and at the start, it was fine hearing her complain about her bad days to me. I thought this was just sharing days with each other. But this went on every day and its not an exaggeration.
Everyday she will call me and whine about her day over the smallest things. I am generally a positive guy, happy go lucky and try not to let bad things in life get to me.
I listen to her and support her, telling her these things happen and try not to take them to heart. And there are sometimes where we get into countless arguments over the same thing: me telling her to stop whining and complaining about the smallest thing and her telling me why can’t I be supportive.
Thing is, when do you stop being a supportive boyfriend and start being used as an emotional therapist and punching bag for her to unload all those negativity onto? I usually listen and be supportive for 30mins or so before I cant take it and just walk away asking her for us to stop talking and calm down first. This wouldn’t be that bad if she allows us to calm down but she doesn’t. Just spam call and call, text, cry and say she needs someone there. Won’t stop until I call back and when I do call back she will start crying and I get even more pissed off.
This is just a snippet and I’m sure from her POV I should be giving in as a boyfriend. But I really cannot take the negativity every. day. over the smallest things like aunties rushing into trains to snatch seats etc. Am i a bad boyfriend and need to be more patient?