MAN TELLS WIFE TO BE A PROPER HOUSEWIFE OR GO BACK TO WORK

My wife and I had our second kid two years ago (2 and 6). She took two years off for our first son and is finishing up the two years for our second. Now she wants to be a permanent stay at home mother.

I told her I’m not cool with that. One being that it shifts 100% of the financials onto me and it will create tension. I made decent money and so does she. She’s not even open to WFH.

I explicitly told her that if we go down that route then I expect her to be a proper housewife. I’m talking about coming to clean home, cooked meals, every little thing. Just like how I can’t come up short at my job, she can’t come up short on hers. She’ll have the time because I could find the time if the roles were reversed.

To me, this is like an employee who is asking for accommodations that will result in decreased production no matter what and shifts extra work to other people.

Personally, I do feel like taking advantage of and I’m doing my best to get what I can get so I feel less taken advantage of. Being a stay at home parent is a lot less work than a working parent. I’d gladly be one!

I got immense pushback from her. We didn’t even get to discuss how long the stay at home mom gig would last. I mean I’m not cool with it going on for more than a couple of years. I’d divorce her in a heartbeat if she tried to make it permanent.

Childcare isn’t an issue. The schools have plenty of after school classes, my brother lives nearby and would love to watch them and millions of working parents make it work just fine.

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Communication is a good tool. Use it. If it doesn’t work, you are already thinking on divorce, so, what do you need from us? Maybe she wants to be an SHM because she knows all these responsibilities will fall on her even if she works, so why double her work while her hands are already full?

• This guy really thinks being a homemaker and parent is an easy job.

• The “i would divorce her in a second” comment shows just how little he thinks of his wife. Viewing her as an employee, like his marriage is some kind of business arrangement.