I (25F) told my husband (27M) that not every girl wants to sleep with him
I feel bad about this. He doesn’t seem hurt but I don’t want it to fester in his head so I wanted to ask opinions. Basically, my husband has a history of always thinking girls want to sleep with him.
Girl says hi at the cashier, she wants to sleep with him. Older coworker asks how his weekend was, she wants to sleep with him. Girl compliments his work, she wants to sleep with him, etc.
Some of the time I do think he’s justified but a lot of them I think he’s majorly reading into it. I never mentioned anything about it and just let it go to give him the confidence boost.
My coworkers met him for the first time last week. One of them is usually cold to me, but after she met him, she ran into me at work and told me that my husband is so nice and that she hopes I bring him around more often. It felt very sweet and platonic and I’m pretty sure she is a lesbian.
Anyway, I mentioned this to him and he had a way over the top reaction, saying “she definitely wants to sleep with me, why else would she randomly be nice to you, no one would do that unless they want to sleep with their coworker’s spouse.”
For some reason, it set me off this time, and I told him incredulously “dude what? Where did you get that from? That’s such an overreaction. She was just being nice. She doesn’t want to sleep with you and I think she’s a lesbian.”
He responded asking me if I thought he was ugly, I.e. why would she not want to sleep with me? I told him no, he is not ugly, but that jumping to that conclusion was just weird. He accepted it and that was that.
I can’t help but feel like I’m going to give him confidence issues now or make him feel like he’s not attractive. I’m wondering if I’m justified in not wanting him to constantly be thinking girls want to screw him but I feel like I was harsh.
What do you all think about this and should I do anything about it? Did I screw up? I feel like an evil person. I want him to always be confident in himself so I don’t want him to think I was trying to hit his self-esteem. It’s just annoying when he always thinks every girl wants to sleep with him.
Thanks all.