Drained by socialising with new work place colleagues
I’m new to a company and I’ve been there for a month now but I feel so drained socialising with my colleagues.
They are friendly and nice, but part of me still feel alittle excluded at times and I feel that I’m friendly but I’m just lacking the human emotions from them and it’s making me hard to connect emotionally.
They mostly talk about work, and what is going on in the office. But actually I prefer talking more about personal and life things as that matters more to me.
I’ve also told myself to maintain professional as well, but sometimes I still fall back to my true self that I want a connection with people at work as we spend more hours with work colleagues than our family in our lives.
It’s crazy, and sometimes it’s so lonely if I’m just trying to live a professional life. It’s gets abit tough
I guess I’m probably not there with them yet, but that made me feels so drained out speaking to them as it felt quite surface level conversation. What should I do?
Netizens’ comments
- Did you consider maybe your colleagues prefer to discuss work-related topics in order to maintain a professional relationship at work? Personally for me I’d rather cut non-work conversations to a minimal with colleagues.
Understand you have your preferences but be aware of the optics. Work should be the most important to you, at least during work hours. - Make sure to identify who is the Energy vampire in the group or you are the energy vampire.
- As much as I hate talking about work, it’s better than no topic to talk about lol.
- You can’t force friendship, and you’ve only been there a month. Think of it this way: talking about work and what’s going on in the office is a necessary first step to eventually becoming closer and talking about life! If you withdraw from conversation now because you think it’s too “surface-level”, you’re interrupting that process of getting to know them!