Sg life meh
My friend is the definition of getting his life together. We are all in our mid 20s. I have a fiance and he is married.
He and his wife combined earns multiple 6 figure a year. Has a fully paid BTO and brand new car (also fully paid). He is 100% self made, doesn’t come from a rich family. He is also generous. An angpao from him, regardless to whom or wdv event, will be at least $50. I have seen him give a $800 angpao for a church wedding before. So yea.
I’m just a normal employee, worrying abt the upcoming wedding and housing expenses. Naturally, I asked him for advice.
His advice is extremely simple and logical. But I will absolutely hate my life if I follow his advise.
My fiance and I want a big wedding, to celebrate our special day. I don’t want to have no wedding, just sign ROM and zhao.
I also wanted to propose first then apply fr the flat, for romantic purposes. I don’t want to bto while still being a student to max out the grants. But this means now I got less grants than him, even though he earns multiple of my income.
I want my ideal home to fit my aspirations, not just do a simple reno to fit my budget.
Are we Singaporeans destined to live like a dog? If I want to build my ideal life, it doesn’t feel possible to do it here.
Here are what netizens think:
- As long as you continue to compare, you will never be happy. Work within what you have. There’s always someone better or worse than you. By whining your wealth also won’t grow.
- And come to reality. You want to have a big wedding. You want super romantic proposal, maybe with doves flying and butterflies fluttering. No matter where you do that, it will be expensive. If you’re average here. You’re average everywhere with all else being equal.
- 90% of the lavish weddings always end up in red and couples either burn through their savings or take a loan to finance that 1 day “special” day. Latter usually takes years to pay back.
- We are very blessed already. Look at our neighbouring countries, some doesn’t even have the opportunity to study and need to leave their home just to survive. Why want to compare? Just be contented with the little things in life and live according to your means.