I have known my girlfriend from China who is working here as a quality control technician. She is undergoing divorce and needs to go back China to settle the paperwork soon.
She has a son of about 9 years old, and his studies has not been good over there. If I apply to bring both of them to Singapore to live here after she is done with the divorce, I am worried her son is not able to adapt to the learning environment over here. And what are my options if her son can’t cope with the education here which is English oriented? We plan to get married after she comes over to Singapore. Will there be any other challenges when I apply both of them to live here?
Here are what netizens think:
- The boy has to learn to cope lor. It’ll be harder for him to learn a new language because he’s a bit older, but no choice if you want to start a life in a new country. That’s just how it is. You should be more worried about yourself having to look after 2 new people here.
- Just a caution, make sure they are not here to leech on you to sponsor studies and living expense. We have heard stories about foreigner marrying to SG to obtain benefits but the wife was still maintaining r/s with original hubby.
- When there is confirmation of the divorce then plan? Why the hurry? Also kinda sus that she’s getting a bf when she’s still legally married…I mean, divorce not even finalised and here u both are planning for the kid to study here and all? Isn’t that a little too rushed? Maybe you should take a step back and consider or ask her if she didn’t meet u in SG what her plans would be for her son and her in the event of a divorce..if she has a solid plan then fine, if not then you most probably are her meal ticket. Just saying.
- how do you know she is going back for divorced? I have seen my colleague marrying Chinese lady with kid end up being a cash cow. Lost the house and still need to pay maintenance. something is fishy. Hopefully I am wrong.
Sign a prenup. She will tell you sob stories about somebody dying in her village or selling a cheap house and ask you to buy in her name only AFTER the marriage: When that happens, annul the marriage and run as far away as you can.