My advice to guys thinking of settling down and getting married – don’t! You will regret it.
I too once thought I found the love of my life. That we will live happily ever after. I was so in love all the advice I’ve heard before fell on deaf ears. Don’t repeat my mistakes!
Someone once told me that the biggest reason marriages fail is because women think that men will change after marriages but they don’t. Men think that women wouldn’t change, but they do.
And boy do they change… Within a few years, I can barely remember the woman I loved. And I’m not just talking appearance – it’s the personality changes that scare me. Even her family commented that she is so different.
The once caring, gentle girl who was the light of my life is now my nightmare. Everything I do or don’t do is wrong. Everything I say or don’t say is wrong. Every wrong step she will dig up things from ages ago and stack them up.
Other than the 3 kids we have and love dearly, we are worse than roommates. Every time I thought we made progress, something trivial will trigger her and it’s worse than ever.
So think twice, thrice, and 100 times before you jump the gun.
Netizens’ comments
- Newton’s Third Law: Action & Reaction
His third law states that for every action (force) in nature there is an equal and opposite reaction. while it is true people do change we also have to think why they changed?
Could it be our action that create their changes ( reaction ) ? Change your action and maybe you will get a different reaction?
For example: If I slap you what is your reaction? You’ll probably slap me back ? But if I change my action perhaps things might change. good luck! - Talk about changes. Isn’t life full of changes? So you have 3 kids you expect her not to change and be like the light of your life who do nothing before marriage? Before marriage she do not need to do housechores, care for 3 children 24/7, take care of you 24/7, worry about bills, worry about how you see her, how the kids see you. So you expect all the glory without responsibility? Wow.
People change for the better. If in your career you are expected to change and evolve to have more $$$. Then in marriage with the added responsibility is the same too.
If you are one that work and come home be like tua pek gong sit there do nothing. Only hiam this and that then what you expect? Daily praise u? Yes you are tired after a long day of work. Mind you working at home is also a long day of work. If a career working wife plus caring 3 kids is also damm tiring.
If you are capable provide support using hands. Either pay for cleaner or help her with housechores. Teach your kids homework.
I agree with what others said u sure you didn’t change? Are you still that charming gentlemen who bring her out regularly? Praise her? Buy her gifts and frequent surprises? Dating night whenever possible and tell her u miss her?
It goes both way la bro.