My (31m)wife (29f), now ex. We’ve been together for over a decade and engaged for about two and a half years. school sweethearts, two years ago she gave birth to our son.
Since then she’s decided to go to nursing school so our son can have a better future. To make this possible, I’ve worked overtime, cooked dinner every night, watched my son every afternoon, put him to bed myself, and done household chores, bent over backwards for this family. To give her a chance to pass these rigorous classes so we could get ahead in life.
Tonight, literally a few hours ago, my life came crumbling down.
One of the very few nights we get to ourselves since our son was born we decided to go out to a bar/ dance club with some friends.
At one point I tell her I’m going outside to smoke, she says she’s going to dance with her girlfriend. I tell her all right I’ll be back in a few
Halfway out I realized I’d forgotten the cigarettes in her purse as she smokes it occasionally. I come back into the dance floor and find her making out with a complete stranger, I sit back and stare in complete shock for a few seconds. I can’t even process what is happening. Then I snap back to reality and split her off from this effing guy.
I lost it, I screamed at her what the F is wrong with you, and left the bar.
My family, my sons family destroyed for what? It makes zero sense to me. I am so devestated beyond words.
As a child of divorce, this is my worst nightmare, I gave her and my son my all. Every fibre of my being went into being a good father and husband. All of that thrown away for a drunken hookup with a stranger.
I’m reeling, I feel sick. My mom has my son for the night thank god but I am just lost. This all happened three hours ago and I’m so heartbroken I can’t think straight. I locked her out of the house and told her to go to her parents. She’s begging me to listen to reason, that he took advantage of her. Maybe if I hadn’t sat there and watched her I’d have fallen for that gaslight.
I don’t even know what I want from this post. I just need to vent. I’m broken, mostly for my son that will never know growing up with his family intact, the same nightmare I lived through.
I’m so shocked and hurt. I just don’t know.