My son is 19 and he’s married. He and his wife got married without telling anyone because they both feared that nobody would ” understand their love” and somehow they felt doing it like that would be extra romantic.
After my son was fired from his job in November, he and his wife begged me to let them lived with me while they ” figured everything out”.
His wife wasn’t working because she assumed they could both make it on whatever he made.
We’re now on Month 4 of this and I’m stuck with 2 teenagers who sleep until noon or 1pm, what little job hunting that does get done is done by my son, its just a lot of lying around in bed it seems like.
Any time I try and motivate them a little, I’m met by my son’s wife who brings the not-so-great argument that because he’s my son, I have to support us otherwise I’m a bad father and of course when I try and converse with her, she goes and whines to my son that I’m being mean to her.
As much as I want them out, I don’t think I can do that since neither of them have incomes.
Netizen’s comments
If my son’s wife told me I was a “bad father” and I’m required to support them, They would have thirty days notice to leave and I would enforce it by changing the locks.
This is dependency and the longer they have it on you – the harder to get rid of them and more negative impact it will have on you in general.