MAN’S GF WANTS $10K TO MARRY HIM, HE ASKS: “AM I TOO STINGY OR IS SHE GOLD DIGGING”

M35 F30 1.5year. Am I too stingy or is she gold digging?

This is probably asked many times here but trying to get a perspective. My 1.5 year girlfriend asked for $10k for marriage.

I already invested 50k into her failed business, we both took the loss. Then I loaned another 2k which she promised to repay but never did even after I reminded her twice.

At her 30th birthday she bought with my money a luxury bag for 2-3k, after I suggested she should buy a secondhand one for half the price.

I also pay for all groceries and rent. Without counting in living expenses, I have spent close to 80k on gifts and helping her.

Something is off here? She has a job with mediocre income and she uses her money for her mortgage and savings.

Netizens’ comments

1. This is ridiculous. She’s terrible with money and spending yours like it’s hers. Why did her business fail? Why didn’t she pay you back? I absolutely wouldn’t proceed with a partner who behaved like this.
2. You’ve spent $80k in 18 months?? That’s over $4k a month! How much do you earn?? What possessed you to give that much money to someone you barely knew?
   What does 10k for marriage” mean? Is she for sale? Are you sure you aren’t dating a very pricey escort or sugar baby?
3. Absolutely not, you need to stop giving her money. The real question is do you wanna marry someone who’s financially irresponsible? If you do, you’ll be funding her lifestyle for the rest of your lives until your wallet runs dry finally and she has to find herself a new sugar daddy. It’d also maybe be a different story if you two had been together for a decade or longer. But only 1.5 yrs in and you’re 80k deep.
4. Golddigger. No normal woman in a loving relationship would buy a bag that much when she’s in debt. I can afford those bags but don’t buy it because i spend my money on my kids.