I want to sleep with a friend. But I’m married.
I know cheating is bad. It’s unacceptable, disgusting, it’s terrible. I am not here to argue this fact.
I’ve (31f) recently discovered that my husband of ten years, is deviant. This has led to us hating each other, not sharing a bed, and not touching at all.
I found that he slept with a friend of mine, and has some questionable fetishes. It’s impossible to leave him anytime soon. He won’t agree to separate or divorce.
I am lonely. And if he is going to cheat on me, so be it. I’m going to meet up with a semi-removed friend, and take my frustrations out.
How screwed up am I?
GUYS, it’s not really negotiable lol. This dude wants to tie me to a tree (the friend). No one is talking me off this ledge.
My marriage is definitely f-ed up and that’ll be sorted in due time. Details were just context for why I am going to do this. Maybe I shouldn’t have given details. I just wanted to confessssssss
Netizens’ comments
- I’d start talking to lawyers before completely taking divorce off the table
- “He won’t agree to separate”? What has him agreeing with it got to do with anything? Grab your important documents, pack your clothes, and leave! You don’t need his permission.
- For the record I think you should rethink this. It’s not a decision that you can take back and soon enough “he cheated first” and “I couldn’t divorce him” won’t be enough to justify to yourself why you got on his level.
- You shouldnt go as low as your husband is. But you do you.
- I don’t think the casual liaison is going to fix the loneliness. Maybe get a dog, a big dog that will attack when he’s dragging you to the tree.
- Good for you. At the beginning of the post I was mad at you for thinking of cheating but by the time I got to the “he cheated on me with a friend of mine” it all made sense.