My daughter is 22 and she wants to move out soon. She is planning on moving out with her best friend. It doesn’t make much sense economically.
My daughter doesn’t have a high salary and the way things are going if she moves out she will take years to save up for down payment. She wants to buy a home and living with us she can save a lot of money.
Another factor Is that her best friend has a boyfriend and I have heard her best friend talking about moving in with him. So it could also be a situation where my daughter will have to find a new roommate after a year. It doesn’t make sense at all.
We were talking about moving and she asked me what I thought of it. I told her that it didn’t make sense financially if she wanted to move out and she will have to delay buying a house. I also mentioned that she could have to find a new roommate if her friend got serious with her boyfriend.
She got upset and irritated. She said she would deal with it and she ended the conversation quickly.
My husband thinks we should just let her make her own decisions and mistakes.
Here are what netizens think:
Your daughter has an opportunity here to spread her wings and experience some independence. You are falling for entirely natural parental instincts to shield your child from any possible negative that might happen.
What I’m seeing here is a sort of struggle toward maturity. Mature enough to want to move out but still wants approval from parents for what she does–to the extent of getting unreasonable when it’s not forthcoming. Possibly moving out after being advised not to will help her become her own person. We can hope.
When I get asked for advice by my adult daughters, I generally always start with, “Well, it’s your decision and I will support you no matter what you decide.” Then I give them the pros and cons as I see them.Â