I want to share a bit about my story. I’m a Malaysian,when I was 23 years old, I moved into my boyfriend’s house in an old 3-room HDB flat and stayed with his parents. The living room was empty, and his younger brother occupied an extra build corner room.
My boyfriend is an incredibly sweet, kind and positive person. He doted me a lot and ensure I never shed a tear. His personality has endeared him to many people. However, there’s a darker side to our situation.
His parents have proven to be quite toxic. They’ve been verbally abusive towards him and treated him poorly like owe them 100mil. They would scold and shout at him whenever they see him and frequently ask for money. Despite being in their healthy 60s, they refuse to work and spend most of their time in the kitchen smoking. everytime i open the kitchen door I thought the house got burned.
My boyfriend isn’t a high earner,and I’m been financially independent and will try my best to cover our expense. He gives 30% of his salary to his parents. He pays for their bills when they are sick and covers all the household expenses. They seem to have money for cigarettes but none for medical care. There was even an incident where his father used my toothbrush, and another time he entered my room and yelled at me for no reason. His father’s behavior even extends to walking around in just his underwear.
I’ve tried to maintain respect and ignore the nonsense they did to us. As our financial situation has become more stable, I’m eager to move out but we failed to ballot a HDB flat. My boyfriend is hesitant to consider a resale flat as he only has preference for new flat. We’ve had many quarrels about this and his toxic parents behaviour. I’ve endured all of this for years because I love my boyfriend deeply.
Now, I’m in my 30s, and I’m eager to start a family, but we are still stuck in this toxic situation.