My widowed mother recently informed my elder bro and I that she will be selling off her flat. 1st HDB appt done. The proceeds will go 100% to our younger bro coz he needs it. She will move into his flat as he resides overseas.
Her flat was meant to be a safeguard for retirement & where she can collect passive rental income from renting out some of the rooms. Relations in the family has soured. My mum even asked if my elder brother could cough out the whole sum from his personal savings to give to the youngest son so she can stop the sale. Mind you it’s hundred of thousands here. Otherwise, she will proceed and she’s just informing us, not consulting us about the flat.
If your living mum cuts you out of her assets and gives everything to one child, what is your reaction to this decision knowing well that in her old age, she will need monetary support? Mind you, I’m the go to child for errands, not the precious youngest child. I don’t want to make this a topic of money either but it’s inevitable and money spoils relationships.
It will never be equal or fair. Once you accept this part or when you become a parent yourself you may understand why she did what she did whether you like it or not.
Just do what you can within your ability and role as one of her children and close eyes to the rest. You are upset because you have expectations. When you learn to embrace having zero expectations, you will be happier.