Now let me preface that if I have kids, I don’t want them until my 30s. When I was young, I always dreamed of being a mother. But being in my early 20s, I 100% don’t want kids now but know I might in the future.
My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. We’ve talked a lot about our future, and he told me he is 99% sure that he does not want kids in the future.
I have an IUD and I hate the side effects, so I asked him to get a vasectomy thinking about how they’re reversible. He says he won’t get a vasectomy because of the 1% chance that he might have kids. To be honest, I could not see him being a dad. He says he equates fatherhood as “cutting off one of my limbs”.
My therapist tells me “things like this change”. But is this true? Do you think someone in their 20s might change their mind about having kids?
Although I’ve always dreamed of being a mom, I’m on a cocktail of medications which I am dependent on in order to function. I would have to go off of 75% of them if I were to get pregnant.
I have bipolar disorder which is genetic. My point is I don’t know if I will be a mom. I’ve always dreamed of it, but a lot of different factors work against me. I think it would break my heart if we were to stay together for over a decade and we end up breaking up for something that I found out within the first two years of us dating.