I’ve got a new job 3 months ago. It’s a small family company. My boss and all the other employees are women, and so am I. Everyone is much older than me, but i felt really comfortable around them. After a few weeks, I started noticing something I found weird.
The only time when we have space to talk with each other is on the lunch break because shifts are usually very busy.
I’m supposed to go on break with the boss most of the time because we have the same work time.
She is a very charismatic 50-year-old woman. She looks very fit and healthy and has two daughters in my age. I think I’m quite a communicative person and can have a conversation bout anything, but she almost always starts talking about her lunch. She usually has some healthy goodies from home, steamed vegetables or salad or something like that.
I’ve been a vegetarian for over 3 years now, so cooking like that is also a topic we can share, except for one thing.
I’m a big girl, I’ve always been overweight and I’m in the process of trying to accept it because it causes me several mental issues.
And I don’t mind conversation about healthy nutrition and staff its actually my hobby and most of the time i eat like that but she always says something like “ oh i like this light diet very much i feel so good after, and im able to zip all my old trousers” “ I”ve been hiking on the weekend and i lost like 2kg i feel so good” i known its not a big deal but i rlly dont know what to say, when i lose 2kg nothing really change so its ussually awkward silence after that on I say something like “ im happy for u “ and try to sneak out of that conversation really quick.
But the last one was rlly kind of offensive, I’ve been home for 2 days sick, stomach problems cant really eat and stuff and when I got back to work she says to me that i must lost some weight when i didnt eat in two days and how would she welcome some episode like that.
Idk, i started to feel really anxious about that, trying to eat alone at break , eat just salat at work, i used to have ED problems mostly vomiting and now im noticing it coming back sometimes, the urges.
I would like to say to her how toxic is to saying everyday to plus size person (or any person) how she love to starve herself or whatever, but she is my boss and i think it wouldnt be good fo me and she would taken it offensively.