I am originally from Norway but moved to SG when I was 20. In Norway its normal to get a “bunad” for your confirmation. The bunad is Norway’s national clothing piece, and made out of whool amongst other things.
Due to the material and the time it takes to make one (1 year ish), they are very expensive. Now, my friend is an school teacher and asked if she could borrow mine for a culture day they were having. When I told her no, she got very upset and said it was only for one day and not even that big of a deal.
My bunad is one of the most expensive ones in Norway, mine cost 6000$. With the traditional silver and shoes, the dress and outfit adds up to around 8000$. I told her there’s no way I’m risking getting food or paint stains on it, and I don’t want it to get widened out either.
She isn’t big or overweight at all, but she is a few sizes bigger than me. She got offended, saying I’m a fatphobic B and a fake friend. So I told her to make her butt smaller before getting it from me.
She hasn’t talked to me since but she has told our mutual friends about it, and they’re all calling me an asshole. So, am I wrong that I want to protect my property?