My life felt like it was over when my wife told me that I had to ‘submit’ my monthly salary to her. It was her tradition to do this, and I was not happy about it.
The custom of a wife taking control of a husband’s finances is not uncommon in our SG culture but she said it is in China.
As the man of the house, I am expected to provide for my family and take care of all the financial matters. It seems that my wife believes that she should be the one to handle the money, and when I objected, she insisted that it was her right.
I felt like my freedom was being taken away from me.
I had worked hard to earn my salary and felt that it should be my choice what I did with it. I felt like I had no say in the matter, and I was powerless to stop her from taking control.
I was also worried about how this would affect our relationship. I had always been the one to take care of the finances, and I was uncomfortable with the idea of giving up that role to my wife. I was afraid that this would change the dynamics of our marriage and that she would become the one in charge.
I tried to talk to her about it, but she refused to listen. She told me that it was her right to take control of the finances and that I had to accept it. I felt helpless and frustrated. I had no way to make her understand my point of view and I felt like my life was over.
She said if I have money I will fool around.
I was also worried about the implications of this decision. I knew that if I agreed to her demand, then it could lead to other problems. What if she decided to control other aspects of my life? What if she started to make decisions that I didn’t agree with? I felt like I was being stripped of my freedom and autonomy.
After a lot of arguing and pleading, I finally gave in and agreed to let her take control of the finances. I felt like I had no other choice and I had to accept her decision. It was a difficult decision, but I knew that it was necessary for the sake of our marriage.
Now, my wife is in charge of our finances and I’m not happy about it. I still feel like my life is over and I’m not sure how I’m going to cope with this new arrangement. I know that I need to trust her and that she will make the right decisions for our family, but I still don’t feel comfortable with it.
It’s been a few months since my wife took control of the finances and I’m still trying to adjust to the new arrangement. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, and I’m worried that I’m going to make a mistake and upset her. I know that I need to trust her, but I can’t help but feel like I’m losing my freedom and autonomy.
I know that this is the way it has to be, but I still feel like my life is over.
Now she make me feel really like fooling around because home is no longer a comfort zone.